Fan? Why

Well a couple weeks ago my fan blow, blowing/burning everything from the fan motor to the relay. Ive bought a new fan, relay and fan connector for the harness. The connector the connects the harness to the relay is IMPOSSIBLE to get, ive gone everywhere auto parts, dealerships, salvage yards, and any site online i can find. I hate to have to pay over $100 for an entire engine harness just to get a connector, can anyone give help me on finding a site where I can buy this connector. Also i went ahead and connected the wires to the relay without the connector and the fan doest want to turn off?? Even without the keys in the ignition the fan doesnt want to turn off? Any help would be great

what does it look like? ive got a bag of those connecters here that i wont be useing. i could get it to ya for free, unless i need shipping or something

Its has a orange rubber seal, its oval shaped and has 5 connectors that connect to it.